Do you ever stand in front of the mirror naming everything and anything you don’t like about yourself? Or maybe you watch wonder woman, and get angry with yourself because you don’t have superpowers like her? I am raising my hand because I am so guilty of this. Dreaming myself away in other peoples lives have been a full time hobby of mine for so many years.
I want to get personal with you and share a story that i keep near and dear to my heart.
A couple of years ago I had no life. None. I was in a abusive relationship. I had completely isolated myself from friends and family and I felt more lonely than ever. In short, my life sucked.
So one day, after eating a gallon of ice cream and yelling at myself for being fat, I decided that it was time for a change. I brought out my laptop and started searching for a therapist that could possibly help me out of this mess i’d gotten myself into. I found a lovely lady. Scheduled an appointment and off i went.
On my first day of therapy she asked me what I wanted to come of these sessions. I was so ready for this question and I put in my order. “I would like to be like this person from a tv show that i watch” I said confidently and continued. “She’s smart, funny, confident, has amazing friends, and she always knows the right thing to say”. On top of that, she was beautiful and I was already planning on how I could turn my hair from brunette to blond, just like hers.
My therapist looked at me and said “How about making space for who you are instead?”
I froze and immediately thought to myself “Are you crazy? I can’t be myself. That’s nuts!”
But was it?
I remember this scenario so clearly, because that day something really powerful shifted inside of me. More so, that’s why I was feeling the need to share it with you! Because I believe that many people struggle with this.
We struggle to just be ourselves.
However living in this world of supermodels and photoshop makes it damn hard to not believe that you need to be the best all of the time.
Who do you feel the need to be? The funny friend, the supermodel or the person who always wins?
To be authentic in a world where we feel pressured to be so much more takes courage and a lot of love. You heard it, the L word.
No one else can give us the validation and love that we truly need but ourselves. This is why self-love and positive self talk should be a part of your daily routine. It takes time a practice, but at the end of the day it will help you feel more powerfull than ever.
I have a few different exercises that are awesome for spreading a lot of self love!
Nr. 1 The mirror exercise
Stand in front of a mirror everyday. Time and space is up to you. Take 3 deep breaths to quickly connect to yourself. Then look yourself in the eyes and say 3 good things about yourself. Whatever you want. Repeat this everyday day. It takes five minuts tops, but it will bring you so much self love and joy.
Nr. 2 Meditation with positive affirmations
Meditation with positive affirmations everyday will 1. give you a deep sense of inner peace and 2. help you feel deep self love from the inside out. This doesn’t have to take more than 10 minutes. You can find these sessions easy and for free on youtube. Just type in “self love meditation” and choose whichever speaks to you the most.
Nr. 3 practice appreciation
Every night thank yourself for everything you have accomplished that day. Thank yourself for drinking a gallon of water, for reaching out to a friend or just telling someone else that you love them. Appreciating yourself will bring you great self love and appreciation for who you are and what you bring to this world.
I practice these myself everyday and I swear they are life changing.
I dear you to choose one a practice the relegiously everyday for the next 4 weeks. Reach out to me and let me know in the comments below which one you want to give a try!